I am a single mother. And while I love being a mother, the single part is definitely a challenge. I've spent the last four years adjusting to the single parent side of my divorce, but I haven't done much to address the single woman side of post-divorce life.
There are approximately 10 million single moms in the United Stateswhich means that the odds are pretty good that at least some of them are looking for love. Not all of them, of course, but the ones who are often have some hard and fast rules for dating that are a little different than from before they had kids. And they have to be!
When we got to our room, my body became a thing of beauty, filled with fire and lust. He loved them; he grabbed them — and sprayed milk all over us. After my second daughter was born, I lost my sex drive completely for more than a year.
The other evening, I was getting ready for a date. And by that, I mean I was pulling Nerf gun darts out of my high heel while helping my daughter comb her hair after her shower. I had exactly 20 minutes to make them a quick dinner. If I made them some sandwiches, I would have time to slap on an extra coat of mascara and could swipe on some lip gloss once I got in the car.
It's inevitable, folks—us single mamas are going to start dating again. This time, let's go in with some sage advice from other single parents who've dated with success. Parenting is challenging enough.
Not to mention that in the rare and precious moments I do have to myself, it feels like a major risk to spend that time with someone I might never see again rather than catching up with friends, reading, zoning out to Netflix, or, you know, sleeping. Still, the experts say single moms would do well to look for prospects in places other than our glowing screens. We fool ourselves into thinking people, sex, or companionship is a message away—and relationships are, of course, a little harder than that.
When I got separated over a year ago, I thought I would never date again. That sounded about right — I needed time to decompress. Women have wants, needs, and desires.
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